21 After School Questions to Get Your Child Talking

Posted by Lori Merrill on 10/19/2017


Now that kids are back in school, schedules have become routine and life is incredibly busy, it can be challenging to connect with our children. I want to encourage you to make time to connect through conversation and there's no better time than after school or right after you pick them up from their daily activities.

It is so important for children to know you love and care for them enough to want to know what is happening in their lives. Even in the midst of busyness we can find snippets of time to be able to connect through questions with our children. That is why I wanted to share this article with you. Maybe it will give you some ideas for ways to launch the conversations, especially if you have a non-verbal child in your home. If you find yourself frustrated with their one word answers to your questions then this should be really helpful!

I read this post from the ministry, "Focus on the Family", which was one of my favorite ministries while my children were growing up. I found them incredibly helpful for me as a mother as we passed from the baby to teen years. I hope you will find this helpful and maybe choose to follow them for more parenting helps!


Lori Merrill


21 Questions to Get Your Kids Talking

by Dr. Joshua Straub
School is underway here in Tennessee. What I love most about school, as a parent, is the routine and structure it brings back to our family. 

But there’s something else I love about the school year. Not only does it give our kids the chance to learn new subjects about the world around them, but it also gives our kids an opportunity to learn how to interact with the world around them. 

For many parents, the scary part about school is that it’s the people our kids spend time with–their teachers, peers, principals, and coaches–who make such a difference in how they learn to interact with others.

Whether you homeschool, or your children go to public or even private school, your kid’s budding brains are being stretched in so many ways–not just cognitively, but also emotionally and relationally. 

As the guy who wrote a book on the importance of emotional intelligence in kids, I care more about my children’s character than I do about them getting straight A’s. I hope one day, when I’m old and frail, I can look back with fondness and pride on the legacy I’m leaving, knowing that my children love God and love all people. 

But how can we know, today, what’s really going on inside the hearts and minds of our kids when all we receive in response to our heartfelt, “How was your day?” is… 

So you probe, “Did you like it?” 
Child: “Yes.” 
At least it’s a start. You inquire further, “What did you like about it?” 
Child: “I don’t know. Can we watch a movie when we get home?” 

With this kind of exchange over time, it’s easy to cave to the movie and stop asking questions. That’s why we have to consider, not just the type of question we ask, but also the best time of the day to ask it. On the drive home, your child is likely tired and ready to unplug. With that in mind, consider asking the following questions at the dinner table, or when you tuck them into bed–which is often the most emotionally available time of the day for our kids.


21 After-School Questions to Get Your Kids Talking 

1. What’s one thing that really made you laugh today? 

2. What was the most favorite part of your day? 

3. What is one thing (subject, activity, etc.) you like/dislike about school? Tell me about that. 

4. What do you like about _________ (i.e. your teacher, math, spelling, etc.)? 

5. Share one thing you know now that you didn’t know when you woke up this morning. 

6. Who did you play with the most at school today? What did you do together? 

7. Who is someone you don’t like hanging out with? Why is that? 

8. Who is someone at school (or a friend you know) who always seems to do the right thing? Tell me about him/her. 

9. What is one thing you’re not looking forward to this week? How do you plan to make the most of it? 

10. Is there a problem you faced today that you solved? How did you solve it? 

11. When did you feel most proud of yourself today? 

12. Did anyone push your buttons today? Tell me about that. How did you react/respond? 

13. What is one thing you want God to help you with at school this week? 

14. What would you like to talk about tonight? 

15. Name one thing that happened today that you’re very thankful for. 

16. Is there a friend or classmate you have trouble getting along with? How can you be a better friend? 

17. Who is someone (a friend at school, a teacher, sibling, etc.) you saw act with integrity today? What did they do? 

18. What was the most difficult thing you had to deal with today? How did you get through it? 

19. What, about school, makes you happy? 

20. If you could change one thing about school, what it would be? 

21. What is one thing we can do as a family after school, or on the weekend, that would brighten your day?
Read the original post and other articles at Focus on the Family and Dr. Dobson's Family Talk.
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