Famous at Home
Posted by Stephanie Whitley on 03/04/2014
by Stephanie Whitley Recently I read a book on prayer called Draw the Circle. In the book, theauthor shared that he prays often to be famous in his home. He is a pastor and writer so he is pulled in many directions. Because I am a stay-at-home mom, I can be pulled in many directions. Oftentimes, I can get caught in the trap of looking for approval or affirmation outside of the home, whether it is serving at church or the school. All of these things are good, but am I serving my family and caring about their needs more than others? I truly want to be famous at home. Famous can be defined as "first rate or exceptional." I have begun to pray this over myself, and I am asking myself some tough questions. I have listed these questions below. Maybe you can ask yourself these questions as well. 1. Am I present with my children? I want them to know without a doubt that they are more important than an email, a text, the news, Pinterest, Facebook, etc. How can I implement this? I can set up guardrails by checking email or Pinterest once or twice a day. When we are at the park, I can be intentional about being present and involved. When they are at football or gymnastics, I can be a captive audience. Recently, I read a book by Jeff Goins and he shared, "What if we are so caught up in not missing anything that we miss the important stuff right in front of us." That really stuck with me. 2. Am I connecting with them on a regular basis? I want to connect with each one of them and spend one-on-one time with them. The best way for my husband and I to do this is to have a schedule for our dates with them. I also try to connect with them at home, whether it's tossing a football, playing Uno, or simply watching them ride a skateboard. I have to remind myself to stop what I am doing and engage with them. I don't always do a great job on this. There's always room for improvement. 3. What are my priorities? Do I give and give outside of the home or do I save energy for my family? I had great teaching on this as a young mom. The priorities are supposed to be: God, family, church, and others. Sometimes we think serving at church is more important than serving our own family members. We are called to be the keeper of our home and our family. I can get pulled in many directions so I have to be on guard. Also regarding priorities, it's so important for me to make sure my husband is a priority over my children. It's an area that I really have to pay attention to in my life. 4. How am I treating my family? Am I grumpy, irritable, discontent, impatient? Sometimes I am. My desire is to be someone who is gentle, kind, and even tempered. I have been praying lately that I will be a gift to my children (Ann Voskamp). I find that when I am not guarding my schedule or if I am not taking care of myself with my eating and exercise, I can get a little bit more unpleasant. 5. Do I delight in my children? Do I see my children as a duty or do I delight in them and have fun with them? I have read it's so important to ask children questions and listen rather than "talking at them" all of the time. Do I jump on the trampoline, play chase, play football, or simply sit down and watch a movie? Sometimes I do. I am always blessed by entering into their world. By writing this article, I have found a theme. It's so important to be intentional as a parent. Some days I miss the mark. I over schedule my time, I lose it with a kid, or I don't take care of myself, or I glance at technology too much. But I can't get this prayer out of my head. Will you join me in praying these two things:
1. Lord, help me to be famous in my home.
2. Lord, help me to be a Gift to my family.Hugs to all of you precious moms. Look for Stephanie's post in March. It will dive a little deeper into connecting with your kids!
Great post Stephanie! Thank you for these reminders!
What great thoughts on important truths! I plan to examine these principles and priorities in my own schedule and practice them! Thank you for your insights and the reminders to keep first things first according to His word.
Thanks Kelly and Lori. I have to "check" myself often! : )