Married a While? Plan Some Fun!
I remember night after night sitting on the couch with my husband semi-bored. Life had thrown us some curve balls during what was supposed to be our empty nest years and we had slowly settled into the same old routine. That’s when I decided to make a New Year’s Resolution even though it was only November. I thought it might take me some time to plan for this new creative way of living, but I was ready for the task.
I was so excited with my idea I declared it to a couple of friends and my husband, “My New Year’s resolution is to HAVE FUN in 2017!” Of course, the usual response was a little laugh, but I was not dissuaded at all. It took prayer and a willingness to try some new things, but I found intentionality was the key to this new plan! Here is the list of things we have tried or are currently trying:
• We started going to concerts and didn’t limit it to just our favorite genre.
• Christmas light touring with friends and cocoa. First year included a puppy. The puppy part won’t be repeated!
• Binged on a few Netflix series suggested by our children & friends.
• Started brunching—especially after church (with and without friends).
• Invited more people into our home for dinner.
• Took some quick road trips.
• Bike rides together.
• Walked together more.
• Took a train trip from one state to another.
• Attend our alma mater football games together.
• Found another couple we enjoy traveling with and began making long term travel plans.
• Cooked together through meal subscription plans.
• Accepted more invitations to do things we might not have tried before.
• Took a cooking class.
• Started a date night with another couple once a month. Local restaurants usually have monthly “specials” including things like: Date night dinners, Wine Dinners or Cocktail Dinners (if you don't drink, no problem, most restaurants are happy to hold the alcohol).
• Dance Lessons.
As you can imagine, some things worked better than others, but the important thing is that we tried and continue to do so. Some of the benefits include:
~We are having fun together.
~We are enjoying life with others and making time for our marriage in a way that was more difficult when the kids were home.
~We are way more adventurous than ever.
~We are both trying things that we normally wouldn’t try, but for the purpose of the other person. Which reminds me of this verse: “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;” Philippians 2:3
So, I hope this encourages you no matter what stage of life you are in…to spend more time on your marriage no matter what! And I would love for you to share what you are your husband do so we can all learn from one another! Plus, I need more ideas for the years to come!
In His Love,