Three Tools for Our Words
Posted by Maria Derminio on 08/28/2018
It is easy to find fault, judge, and criticize others. We do it openly or quietly. Years ago God taught me that by displaying those traits was a lack of self-control: of my thoughts and my tongue. And I often fell into the trap of a loose tongue. With many mistakes, confessing, repenting, and meditating on verses, I have found some victory in this area.
Studying the book of Proverbs has been helpful to me. There are verses on thinking before speaking, answering with a gentle response, overlooking a minor offense, and many others related to words and the tongue. To help me remember, I try to keep away from the “Three C’s”: criticizing, complaining, and comparing.
A few years ago while chatting with some friends about our family relationships, we decided we all needed to control our tongues. Each week we memorized a verse and prayed for each other. We named it the “Honeycomb Project” based on Proverbs 16:24 “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul, and health to the bones. We wanted our words to our husbands and children to be encouraging and we needed God’s help to not be critical, complain, or compare. Almost three years later we are still working on controlling our tongues. There have been some defeats when we blew it, but also many victories. We have learned 52 verses each year and the Lord brings them to our minds when we are tempted to have loose tongues.
A few of my favorites are:
Proverbs 16:21 "The wise in heart will be called prudent, And sweetness of the lips increases learning";
Proverbs 25:11 "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver"; and
Proverbs 13:3 "He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin."
Check out a few of the wonderful words of wisdom in the book of Proverbs and park on them for a week or two. Ask a few friends to join you. May the Lord bless you as you make the words of your mouth and the meditations of your heart pleasing to Him.
*Thank you to Maria Derminio for being our guest author today. Maria has been married for 40 years. She has 6 grown children and 8 grandchildren. She has a passion for God's Word and enjoys investing in young moms.