Tonight Felt Like World War 3
This was challenging to get on paper but I am hoping it will help someone. Last semester, my husband said "Tonight felt like World War III." Sigh. He was right. I was battling with my teenage son over his homework. My son and I are wired differently & he approaches his homework differently than I would. My husband and I are recognizing we need to give him reasonable goals and give him the freedom to manage his homework his way. This will protect my relationship with him and this will help prepare him for his future. And the truth is...I can't go to college with him. : )
Our goals include...
-to let natural consequences be his teacher and to let him fail. (this is so hard for me)
-to build him up and bring attention to his strengths more than being critical.
-to play the consulting role & brainstorm with him instead of taking charge or adding pressure.
-to manage any frustrations and not revert to ineffective parenting stratgegies (threats, comparison, etc.).
-to remind him often that he is an original design and God designed him to think this way. And God has a good plan for his life.
God, give us wisdom in parenting. Help us to communicate love and acceptance to each of our children. And help our children to recognize their strengths & gifts and to find their purpose in You. Amen. Hugs, Steph
"Therefore encourage on another and build one another up, just as you are doing." 1 Thessalonians 5:11